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Eye of the Optimist-writing and reflecting for social success

Here are two tips about adjusting your head to take on a more positive viewpoint. They both involve writing. The object is more social success.

Two Simple Exercises To Help You Think More Positively
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It's human nature to focus on the negative. It makes sense to a degree. We need to notice what's wrong and think about how to fix it. However, if this tendency goes too far it can make us unnecessarily insecure or depressed. We can counteract it by taking time to explicitly remind ourselves of the many things that are going well in our lives. The two exercises below are built on this principle.

I first read about this exercise in the Positive Psychology book Flourish: A Visionary New Understanding of Happiness and Well-being by Dr. Martin Seligman. Studies have shown it to be effective in reducing feelings of depression.

1. Before you go to bed set aside a few minutes to write down three things that went well for you that day. It doesn't matter if it's in a physical journal, a Google Docs document, or your phone. Use whatever method is most convenient for you.
  • Went on a bike ride and explored some new trails.
  • Saw an interesting new movie with my friends.
  • Did well on my Calculus exam, despite being nervous about it.
  • Had a nice chat with my mom on the phone.
  • Had a nice fun date night with my husband.
  • I asked Stephanie out on a date. She said no, but at least I tried.
  • Got a big chunk of that project at work out of the way.
2. Besides each item write a quick explanation about why it happened. For example:

My personal experiences with the exercise
  • Within a week of starting I started noticing an effect on my thinking. Because the exercise only asked me to think about and record the good parts of each day, my mind gave them that much more weight.
  • Even when something bad happened I didn't dwell on it as much, or even started focusing on the silver lining, which I could write down for the exercise. Since the negative events weren't being permanently captured they faded from my consciousness more quickly.
  • Every day ended on a little positive note.
  • After about two weeks I started to get this feeling that I was riding this streak of success-filled days. After all, I had a written record to prove it.
  • At times the exercise changed my behavior. If I was having a lazy, uneventful day I'd think, "I should go out and do something fun, or get some work done, so I'll have some decent points to write down for tonight."
  • When I encountered the exercise I misread the instructions and thought it said to give a reason why each event happened, but based on what I did personally, through my actions or personality, to bring it about. It was a happy accident, because it made me focus on the choices and character traits I had that allowed me to bring positive things into my life. If you do the exercise you may want to try this variation.
  • The exercise inspired me to try similar ideas, like taking some time on New Year's Day to come up with a list of every success and highlight from the previous year.

Things I'm Grateful For exercise (Ongoing version)
1. Before you turn in for the night write down three things you're grateful for. They don't need to be related to anything that happened to you that day, just anything you can think of. The items don't need to be deep or poetic, just something you appreciate having in your life. Some examples:
  • ...I have my health.
  • ...I live in a safe, prosperous country.
  • ...there are so many good video games coming out right now.
  • ...I have such awesome friends.
  • ...that I have the time and freedom to work on my social issues.
  • ...I'm relatively financially secure.
  • ...mangos are in season.
  • ...that Mad Men exists and is such a well-written, nuanced show.

2. Again, commit to trying the exercise for at least two weeks. If it doesn't float your boat, don't worry about quitting. If you find it helpful, continue with it as long as you'd like.

Sit down, and in one session write out as many things as possible that you're grateful for. You'll likely get more results for your mood when you remind yourself of these things daily, but this version is good for giving you a quick shift in perspective. It can help you see the bigger picture if you're in a spot where life isn't going your way.


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